Stress: Friend or Foe?
When you get stressed do you use stress or does stress use you? Far too many people allow themselves to fall apart when something unexpected comes along. To these individuals it’s as if the world is ending. Their mood changes for the worse, logical thinking goes out the window, and all of their focus is unconsciously placed on remaining powerless. Take back your power. There are few things in life that are guaranteed. However, here are some things I can guarantee. There are going to be times in your life when things don’t work out the way you want them to. There will be times when you are caught off guard. Times when you are angry, sad, completely happy, excited, anxious, etc. Not everything is going to be sunshine and rainbows. Once you realize one universal truth everything becomes a whole lot easier. You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it. Decide that when stress comes, which I assure you it will, you are going to use that stress to push you further towards your goals.
So now you may be asking, “That’s all great Jamil but what is something I can do to make this a reality?”
As the old saying goes, ask and you shall receive.
Here is one extremely useful technique you can incorporate into your life to massively reduce your stress levels: Write down what you’re going to do/what you want to obtain. Then write down all of the things that could go wrong/make you want to quit/stop you from getting what you want. Next write down what you will do to overcome these limitations if they become a reality. If you take the time to brainstorm as many problematic situations as you can you will be prepared for anything. Why? Because now you have a plan. You have anticipated most of the things that could possibly go wrong as well as how to beat them. Now when a problem occurs, it is no longer unexpected, but ironically enough, it has become a part of the plan. You anticipated things wouldn’t always go smoothly; therefore you don’t panic, and you change your approach and WIN. Can you plan for every possible scenario? No. However, if you get into this habit of writing things down something amazing happens. You change the way you think (in a sense you re-wire your brain). Even if something happens that you didn’t foresee, you still will ask yourself, “how can I get around this hurdle instead of giving up?” I have seen so many people benefit from this strategy and I know it will help you as well.
I leave you with a powerful quote that you should take to heart and remember for the rest of your life:
“You can’t calm the storm so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass”
Until next time my friends!