One of the first things I often ask my coaching clients and people that I speak with is,
“What would you love to create in your life? What do you really really want?”
If you don’t know what you want, then you have no target, and without a target, you can’t hit your target.
So, it’s crucial for you to look within and discover what it is you want to experience in your life.
Once you have an idea of what that is, the next question is, ‘Why?’
Why do you want that?
What would having/doing/being that do for you?
How would your life be better?
What would you be able to do or be that you believe you can’t do or be now?
When we dive deeply into ourselves we discover that what we actually want is a feeling.
We either want to feel more of the emotions we like, or we want to experience less of the emotions that we don’t like.
We are chasing a feeling.
The interesting thing about this is that feelings and emotions are an inside-out phenomena. They come from within you. Emotions and feelings never come from the outside world. And yet, most people project their happiness outward and set various conditions that must be met before they give themselves permission to feel good.
They say things like:
“I’ll be happy when I: make X amount of money/get into a great relationship/get promoted/get that better job/start that business/lose weight/etc.
Have you ever found yourself saying these things?
This type of thinking is a trap because none of these things can make you happy. They may provide you with momentary pleasure, but that pleasure will be short-lived. True happiness comes from within you, and it’s based on the degree of peace and gratitude you are experiencing in the moment, which is based on who you’re being and where you place your focus and attention.
Try this exercise with me:
Take out a piece of paper and write out all of the things that you want to have in your life.
Next, go through your list and get clear on why you actually want those things, and who you want them for. Do you want X for you? Or, do you want X to impress/seek validation from other people? What is the underlying need that having that thing will provide you with?
Now that you’ve gotten clear on your list, ask yourself:
‘What other ways can I meet this need?’
What’s the feeling I want to experience that I believe having the thing will give me?
Here’s the truth: You don’t need to have/achieve what you think you do in order to feel good. You can access that emotion right now. Let me show you how.
The first thing to understand is that all emotions exist within you in this moment as potential states of being. Emotional states don’t come to you, you go to them. You only desire a certain emotion because you have already experienced it before in other areas and times in your life, the emotional state felt good, and you’d like to experience it again.
I’d like you to close your eyes (after you read the instructions haha) and recall a time in your life where you felt totally X (motivated, confident, loved, playful, peaceful, abundant, and whatever other emotion you’d like to experience).
Remember a specific moment.
Now, in your mind, go back into that moment and step into it fully as if it were happening now. Looking through your own eyes, seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard, feeling what you felt, and truly feeling totally and completely X (your desired emotion).
Take a few moments to fully explore the memory, and assuming the memory is powerful enough and you fully associated into it, you’ll find that you become flooded with your desire emotion as if the event was happening right now.
Then, when you open your eyes, you see that you’re still in the same location you were in before you did this exercise, and yet you feel different.
Nothing has changed, but everything is different.
Why? Because you have shifted your internal world, and your external world, which is a mirror reflection, shifted as well. As the old expression goes, ‘as within, so without.’
This is why feeling is the secret. Anything you want to feel, you can feel right now by using your imagination, and shifting your internal state.
The beauty of this process is that from the empowering and loving state you return to, you go out into the external world and create the life that you’d like far quicker and more enjoyably.
Do this, and let me know how your experience goes.
All my love
Your Coach – Dr. Jamil
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